Man Yells At Wife For Not Getting Him $2 Coffee

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mattstaff
Dec 15, 2020 5:00 PM EST

Man, it sounds like there's a whole lot more going on in this marriage than what we can partially make out at the surface level. We have a married couple that's been married for apparently eight years, and the guy's wife is somehow too cheap to dish out a couple bucks to grab him a nice holiday drink. Kind of a tough situation to find yourself in. Especially if you're already cranky from not having your daily caffeine fix. Would you say he's being out of line for his angry reaction, or is the emotional implosion well warranted? You be the judge. 

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    Blue - r/AmltheAsshole + Join u/Eggnoglattethrowaway • 1d S 2 8 4 AITA for yelling at my wife over $2 Not the A-hole My wife (38F) and I (33M) have been married for 8 years. We have one child together (5M). Some background that might be relevant: I work full time. She works about 15 hours a week. Our finances have always been separate. However, I pay all the bills and for all our "fun stuff," as well as give her an allowance of $1000 per month. In fact, she currently has almost three times as mu
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    Text - The fight: We were out for a walk and I wanted to get a holiday drink from a coffee shop for us to share. My wife told me not to get it. She said she had a gift card, but only for a certain location. So I waited until we walked past that location. My wife then said she would go in to get it and we would meet at home. I left with our son. When my wife got home I noticed she was drinking a plain coffee. I asked her where my drink was and she said there wasn't enough money left on her card t
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    Text - I was actually so mad I had to leave the house. I'm currently at my sister's place, just hanging out in the front yard (because COVID). I don't know if I should go home and apologize for yelling or stay until I've truly calmed down. My wife always makes me feel like l'm overreacting but I feel genuinely hurt. ETA: Typo. Should be $1000/month. Not $100. She set the amount. 3.9k 691 ↑, Share
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    Text - Withoutcatsallislost • 1d .. I'm no therapist but I don't think this blowup is about the coffee... Reply 794 ...
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    Text - Ermthefuck • 1d • Partassipant [1] 2 Awards NTA I know exactly how it feels to be constantly giving and giving to get nothing back. Yeah it's over something so small but isn't that the point? She can't do the bare minimum and pay the extra to get you a coffee? This is clearly an accumulation of things building up because it does feel shitty giving your all to get nothing back. Reply 1 6.4k 3 ...
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    Text - SnooDonuts5467 • 1d O 1 Award NTA - yeah it's $2 but seriously?? Who does that! Who tells their partner oh no I have a coupon to save money on your drink (that I'm guessing you was likely to pay for in the first instance as it comes under fun stuff?) to then return with not only no drink for you but a drink for herself when you were the one to want a drink in the first instance? It's not about the $2 it's about the principal of telling you no to then only think of herself. Even if she'd b
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    Text - teambagsundereyes • 1d • Partassipant [2] I don't think that you blew up over coffee, I think the coffee was the trigger for the feelings that you have built up. You pay all the bills and give her 1000/month for funsies and she can't spare 2 bucks? I'm gonna go with NTA. Your delivery may not have been the greatest, but I can definitely relate to the frustration. Reply 1 218 ...
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    Text - Avebury1 • 1d • Partassipant [2] NTA - You might want to sit down with her and work out a fair family budget. What does she do with the money that she earns? What is her take-home and what does she do with it? If she gets to keep it all plus collect a $1,000 allowance each month no wonder she has a lot more saved than you do. She should have just let you get the coffee you wanted instead of being so cheap and thoughtless. I don't blame you for being irritated. How are the household chores
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    Text - ClaudeJRdL • 1d • Partassipant [1] as well as give her an allowance of $1000 per month. In fact, she currently has almost three times as much money saved as I do. NTA but the fight isn't really about this - you're being financially abused here. Reply 400 ...
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    Text - TheWorldsShiitty • 1d NTA. From this post your wife is clearly INCONSIDERATE AF. If you are PAYING ALL THE BILLS and FOR ALL YOUR FUN STUFF, what is she spending her money on that she couldnt get a drink you wanted? Let her spend her own money on what ever she needs and that ">allowance of $1000 per month" can get cut down to $50 instead (or non) so that the next time you can get yourself that drink and more. N if she dont like BOO DAMN HOO. Reply 1 1.0k 3
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    Text - MrSilverSkunk • 1d NTA. That was very inconsiderate of her. Q Reply 4 36 ...
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    Text - dotmur16 • 1d NTA. This seems to be about way more than the $2. It's the straw that broke the camels back. You cover expenses and fun stuff, she gets $1000 a month plus her income from her part time job. This can't be that she didn't have enough money at the time. My advice is to look at other occurrences that fall under this theme. To me it seems she's selfish and inconsiderate and maybe you're fed up with feeling that she doesn't care about you. I don't want to jump to conclusions, so i
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    Text - azh88 • 1d NTA what you should do is tell to ur wife that you need an apology because Of literally everything you said In this post. It's not just about coffee or whatever it's about her not going out of her way to get you a small thing even though you (I assume) go out of your way to do things for her all the time Reply 1 303 ...
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    Text - TheWorldsShiitty • 1d The fact that she didnt even communicate with him is bizzare. She wasnt considering her husband so I don't see why he has to consider her fun stuff when she is capable of doing herself. There is clearly no equal standing in this marriage and it sounds like she is the only one enjoying the benefits of this marriage in terms of finance. He sounds frustrated that she couldnt do that one (or possibly more) thing for him on top of him giving and giving to their marriage a
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    Text - Queen_Hinata • 1d NTA! Your wife is selfish especially since she has all that money saved up and you give her a pretty good allowance. You need to talk to her about he ways and give her these examples of how she's not being considerate. Plus she needs to understand that what she did was totally selfish and not right. If she doesn't then idk man good luck cause...nope Reply 20 3 •..
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    Text - brazentory • 1d NTA. I can't imagine my husband ever doing that to me. In fact my husband would forgo his drink to get me mine if that's all he had on him. If situation reversed l'd bring his drink or we'd both go without. I certainly would not have taken the selfish route especially if he asked for it snd I knew he really wanted it. Is she always this thoughtless??? Reply 1 5
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    Text - Rasmussen789 • 1d NTA what gets me is where she says she didn't have enough left over for his drink, surely his drink should have been the first one she got as it was his suggestion and she was the one who said she would get it for him. Personally I think she needs to start contributing more. I get you paying the bills as you work FT but that should mean her earnings are hers so she shouldn't need an allowance as well. Your wife needs to realise how privileged she is Reply 1 4 + ...
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